Anyway.

Yesterday, I was meeting with a beautiful mentor & friend, and we were talking about some upcoming singing opportunities that I had. She mentioned that before performing, it's important to get the backstory, inspiration and true meaning of a song you are going to perform.
On Sunday, I am singing The National Anthem at her church, and after reading the history of the song myself, it does mean more to me. It's fascinating, and if you don't know the history, you should definitely read about it or watch the short documentary on YouTube.
Secondly, I will be singing "Anyway" by Martina McBride at Douglasville Idol on July 4th. I have performed this song so many times, it's ridiculous. I could sing the lyrics in my sleep. I still wanted to get more information on it & uncover deeper meanings. After watching the music video & reading a few articles about Martina's own feelings, I read Mother Teresa's poem that inspired it. I've read it before, but this morning, it hit me so hard. I want to share it with you.

People are often unreasonable, illogical and self centered;
Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives;
Be kind anyway.
If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies;
Succeed anyway.
If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you;
Be honest and frank anyway.
What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight;
Build anyway.
If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous;
Be happy anyway.
The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow;
Do good anyway.
Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough;
Give the world the best you've got anyway.
You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and your God;
It was never between you and them anyway.

I mean, wow. "It was never between you and them anyway." Isn't it so hard to really see that? Truly understand it. It's one thing to read the words and think it's a cool concept. It's quite another to really internalize what's being said here.
Forgiveness. Kindness. Success. Honesty. Frankness. Production. Happiness. Goodness.
Those are pillars that everyone wants their life to be built on, though sometimes we get confused about why they are so important.
It was never about you and the person that you needed to forgive. It was never about you and the people you shared kindness with. It was never about those that uplifted you or tore you down when you succeeded. The things that fell apart that you spent so much time creating. The people that were jealous of what you had or didn't have. It was never about them. It was never about it. It's not about saving face. Being accepted. Being rejected. Being popular. Not being popular. Fitting into a social norm or a societal norm. It was never about that.
I think a lot of people hold back from their full potential because they are afraid of what others may believe about them. We start dating, and we get our hearts broken. Or we watch the relatioships around us in our families and friends crumble. We make up our minds that the opposite sex is just crazy... We are so afraid of being broken that we never let our guards down. Yes, more times than not, when you put your heart on the line, it's going to get hurt. Do it anyway.
Some people don't deserve our forgiveness. But it's not about what they deserve. What happened between the two of you may be irreconcilable... You don't want to forgive. Do it anyway.
Yes, the people asking for money on the side of the street may have a house with three bedrooms. The burnout in your political science class may lose the notes that he asked to borrow. The money you donate to a 'good' cause may go to funding a large corporation that doesn't benefit the cause at all. Do it anyway.
You may not be considered 'street smart'. You may get broken. Taken advantage of. You may get to a point where you feel that all of your efforts have gone unnoticed. The person you fell so deeply in love with may never return your sentiments. Those you helped may never thank you. Your idols and those you admire may never pat you on the back and tell you they are proud of you. You may lose friends. You may make enemies. You may never get awarded or congratulated by the people of this world. Do it anyway.
It was never between you and them anyway.